It’s time for a refresh. This is the time to move forward with a better understanding of who you are and what you value. When you show up for yourself in this way it radiates onto others and helps to build better relationships.

If your twelve-year-old self was able to ask you questions about how life will be, would your instinct be to give them the cold truth? Would you calculate all of the mistakes you’ve made to so desperately try to warn your former self of the dangers to come?

If you’re answering yes to these questions - you may be stuck without self-compassion and but know it’s not your fault.

Self-love is a complicated thing to define but it falls somewhere in-between self-care and the radical acceptance of our being equating to mind, body, and spirit… okay, let’s rework this… let’s say you could show up for yourself in ways that you need, whenever you need, you would be enacting self-love. It’s a full-time job and it can be a lot for some to wrap their heads around.

The messages we get this time of year are often plagued with language like, “wrap up”, “accomplishments”, and “new goals”. They all hint at a larger issue of our society being too far driven by productivity. Our value is too often linked to what we can produce. Enough!

It’s October and with falling leaves, pumpkin-everything, and good spook from time to time, also comes what we’ll call the “beginning of the winter retreat”. The temperature begins to drop, we go into a natural rhythm of hiding away, bulking up, and using our bed as a safe haven from the weather and hazardous roads.